Oh..Where your Worries Will Take You.

How often do the things you worry about deter you from certain things? I ask just because sometimes we do need to check in with ourselves, yes I’m mentioning this again. 🙂 As I was just being the person I am this weekend, enjoying being in ATL,  I remember having this talk with someone and it made me see how busy our lives are and maybe you don’t have a lot going on but sometimes our minds are a different story. This in itself can be draining and then we wonder why we are so tired at times and don’t know the root cause, we are mentally drained. How often do you just have thoughts about things that may not currently be going on, sometimes thoughts you create from something that has occurred or just thinking without any clear solution on the next step you can take? I can have this feeling at times, at one point I didn’t understand how having certain thoughts affected the anxiety I would experience, if I’m already thinking about the outcome of a situation before it ever starts or if I’m just thinking without a plan, it sets up my day to where I can’t fully be balanced and truly drains you to the point where sleep becomes an issue, you don’t know where to start with things because of everything in that head of yours and you really feel like nothing can fully get completed. You can’t fully commit to things you would like when you’re constantly in your own head.  Worrying really does take us away from living our best life, it takes us away from being able to be present and it can remove us from true growth because worrying can keep us stagnant. When you are so used to worrying about things, being able to do something different can be unheard of but it is possible.  When we worry it sometimes serves as a slight distraction from having to deal with reality, if we don’t have the right coping mechanisms, we can just continue to worry and worry to no end and this really just affects us mentally and physically.  Sometimes I know I can just worry to a default, some things don’t need my energy but I sometimes can’t help it and one of the things that can help is, like I’ve mentioned before, identify if this worry is within your control or not, try to focus on things within your control and what you can do to manage this worry, write down your worries so you just have some way to get them out of your head, have a set time to just give yourself a few minutes to worry about your worries and think about possible solutions, challenge what you’re worrying about, does it serve a purpose for you and lastly name it, name whats going on, yes, whats currently happening is worry, don’t let it just continue without truly acknowledging it and letting it know that it doesn’t have that control over you. Worrying is no joke and can truly take hold of you if you don’t let it know whose boss. Do you ever feel like the worries you have drain you from taking care of you?

Happy Monday and goal for this week is just working on believing in the process, believing that what I’m doing is taking me to where I would like to be, so positive thoughts, positive vibes and nothing can stop me. Hope you have a goal this week as well.

 

Thanks for reading,

Alvie

Getting Motivated

Happy new year and thanks for coming back. I’ve been going back and forth on my topic today, didn’t want to repeat what everyone else was mentioning out there right now about starting the year off  right making goals, etc. All these things are important but I really wanted to start from the angle of motivation, to get us through things, to push ourselves to another level to make ourselves improved individuals, we have to start somewhere and I sat thinking a few days back, what is my motivation? What gets me up in the morning? What gets me going on days where I feel not so great? What keeps me pushing through even though I have my flaws?

For me, one is my Faith: Knowing that everything will work out the way it should and I will never be given an obstacle that I can’t fully handle.

Another is Hope: This is the motivating factor that we all have in a sense to believe that things could be different.  You hope that life gets better, you hope that one day, you’ll be doing everything you’ve hoped for, you hope you get noticed by that one person one day, and hope you can become a better person even with all the obstacles that come your way. Having a small ounce of hope keeps you going and is tied to our positive thinking, so when your thoughts include some glimmer of hope you see the potential for a different outcome, you may not necessarily know what exactly needs to be done but you have a sense of urgency to see how, if that makes sense. It’s a belief that there is a possibility, out of all the wrong ways something can go, there’s always hope that things can turn out for the best. If we could stick on our hopeful thoughts for a while, we can truly let them carry us on to try to improve situations within our control. Simple thoughts that I restructured below you can do as well, learning to replace the word “hope” with a more forceful stance on what you can do to get you where you would like to be.

“I hope my life gets better” to “Things will get better starting with me doing ……….

“I hope to be working doing what I love with the title that I’ve always wanted” to “I will be doing what I love one day and to get there I will…………

“I hope to become a better person” to “I will become a better person by ……..

Hope is what gets you started, taking control follows and planning how is how you transition from just thinking to doing.  

Lastly, another thing that gets me going is me, I know I’ve mentioned this in another post but it really is believing in self, your worth, believing in what you’re capable of, believing in what you know you deserve and believing that you have a purpose and regardless of anything that comes your way that’s what you will continue to strive for.

So tell me, What is  your motivation?

Come back for Wellness Wednesday to see how to take control of your life and plan how to get to where you want to be.

Alvie