Oh..Where your Worries Will Take You.

How often do the things you worry about deter you from certain things? I ask just because sometimes we do need to check in with ourselves, yes I’m mentioning this again. 🙂 As I was just being the person I am this weekend, enjoying being in ATL,  I remember having this talk with someone and it made me see how busy our lives are and maybe you don’t have a lot going on but sometimes our minds are a different story. This in itself can be draining and then we wonder why we are so tired at times and don’t know the root cause, we are mentally drained. How often do you just have thoughts about things that may not currently be going on, sometimes thoughts you create from something that has occurred or just thinking without any clear solution on the next step you can take? I can have this feeling at times, at one point I didn’t understand how having certain thoughts affected the anxiety I would experience, if I’m already thinking about the outcome of a situation before it ever starts or if I’m just thinking without a plan, it sets up my day to where I can’t fully be balanced and truly drains you to the point where sleep becomes an issue, you don’t know where to start with things because of everything in that head of yours and you really feel like nothing can fully get completed. You can’t fully commit to things you would like when you’re constantly in your own head.  Worrying really does take us away from living our best life, it takes us away from being able to be present and it can remove us from true growth because worrying can keep us stagnant. When you are so used to worrying about things, being able to do something different can be unheard of but it is possible.  When we worry it sometimes serves as a slight distraction from having to deal with reality, if we don’t have the right coping mechanisms, we can just continue to worry and worry to no end and this really just affects us mentally and physically.  Sometimes I know I can just worry to a default, some things don’t need my energy but I sometimes can’t help it and one of the things that can help is, like I’ve mentioned before, identify if this worry is within your control or not, try to focus on things within your control and what you can do to manage this worry, write down your worries so you just have some way to get them out of your head, have a set time to just give yourself a few minutes to worry about your worries and think about possible solutions, challenge what you’re worrying about, does it serve a purpose for you and lastly name it, name whats going on, yes, whats currently happening is worry, don’t let it just continue without truly acknowledging it and letting it know that it doesn’t have that control over you. Worrying is no joke and can truly take hold of you if you don’t let it know whose boss. Do you ever feel like the worries you have drain you from taking care of you?

Happy Monday and goal for this week is just working on believing in the process, believing that what I’m doing is taking me to where I would like to be, so positive thoughts, positive vibes and nothing can stop me. Hope you have a goal this week as well.

 

Thanks for reading,

Alvie

Checking-In With Yourself

Happy Monday, hope all is well and the weekend was good to you. Do you know how easy it is to stray off track? I found myself losing a bit of myself this weekend on things I’ve been wanting to work on. Simple things that you don’t really think can distract you can really take you away from what you’re trying to accomplish. Case in point, Netflix, bet you didn’t expect that but we ended up binge watching Luke Cage this weekend and instead of continuing to read a new book that I’m currently obsessed with, I’ve also missed out on my daily meditations for no reason, and my workout routine isn’t where I would like for it to be.  I’ve just been easily distracted, so instead of focusing on things that in a way are making me a better person, I have avoided that to an extent. Do you ever have those moments and need to check-in with yourself to regroup and get back to basics? I always think that sometimes when we have those moments when we are distracted from goals to help us grow, I think in a way we aren’t happy about the routine in some way, shape or form. The goal is still attainable but maybe its changing up how you’re doing what you’re doing to get to where your trying to be. I’ve been doing this 52 list journal that has been helpful and last week the focus was on writing down all my routines and then in looking at the list, focusing on which one(s) you’re not happy with and actually changing things up. What I learned from it was that we shouldn’t t keep routinely doing things in our lives that don’t bring us happiness, do something different  about it and keep doing something at least to keep you feeling good about the life you have or are striving for.  Another thing I noticed was just focusing on others needs more than on my own, so in a way I got side tracked and as I write this, it has made me really think about balancing things out, sometimes I tend to focus on other things and I may let my routines get the best of me, so I used this day off to regroup a bit. I finished a chapter in my book, and will be trying out a new technique to see how effective it is in helping me improve my thinking on where I would like to be with my life, so will let you know how it goes after I’ve done it for a few weeks, after I finish writing this post, I will work on journaling and my happiness list for this week, and something about having a clean place makes me think better so that’s also something I’ve noticed that may throw me off some days so I cleaned up a bit today and just focusing on getting ready for work tomorrow.  Checking-in with yourself is so helpful for you to make sure you are on the right path, schedule when you need to but make sure there is some consistency.  It really has helped me get to the root cause of why I’m behaving or feeling a certain way and challenges me to make some changes I may not want to but need to.

Thanks for reading.

Alvie

 

“Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle.” Martin Luther King

 

 

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