Savoring Daily Moments To Appreciate the Art of Being Present

How often do you savor certain moments? I think we can accept that we have good moments in our lives. However, at times these good moments can be overshadowed by the need to want to know the next step instead of just savoring this moment for just a bit.

Savoring in the moment means being present, getting out of your head and just being. Be mindful of what the moment is, be mindful of how it makes you feel, be mindful of your role in this moment. When you can take in certain moments, let the good feeling sit with you for a bit. You tend to seek out more moments like this and you’re more likely to appreciate more moments like you should. Being an active participant in various aspects of your own life requires just a little bit of stopping to “smell the roses.” Life doesn’t have to be a constant race to always be on the go. Sometimes you can just take a moment and savor it for what it is and nothing else. Extend feelings of positive energy by savoring those good moments and consistently choosing to incorporate it, into your everyday routine.

Practice being in moments where you can savor what you’re doing and be mindful of all the things around you. So, the next time you plan a walking excursion, pay attention to the smell of the air, the sun beaming down, the nice cool breeze you feel or just the greenery of beautiful flowers peeking out just in time for spring.  Moments like this I really enjoy because the simplest things as I’m walking somewhere can change my mood and that for me can erase a moment of uncertainty, self-criticism, or frustration.

Partake in a bit of a savoring during the day. The way you would savor that last piece of your favorite food or drink (ahem Rosé). Be in the moment, share the moment with others, want more of those moments and continue to mindfully create those moments for yourself.

Don’t get lost in the shuffle of everyday life moments that can leave you with little time to yourself. Create moments of stillness for you to sit back and enjoy all aspects of the present moment.

Thanks for reading

Alvie

Oh..Where your Worries Will Take You.

How often do the things you worry about deter you from certain things? I ask just because sometimes we do need to check in with ourselves, yes I’m mentioning this again. 🙂 As I was just being the person I am this weekend, enjoying being in ATL,  I remember having this talk with someone and it made me see how busy our lives are and maybe you don’t have a lot going on but sometimes our minds are a different story. This in itself can be draining and then we wonder why we are so tired at times and don’t know the root cause, we are mentally drained. How often do you just have thoughts about things that may not currently be going on, sometimes thoughts you create from something that has occurred or just thinking without any clear solution on the next step you can take? I can have this feeling at times, at one point I didn’t understand how having certain thoughts affected the anxiety I would experience, if I’m already thinking about the outcome of a situation before it ever starts or if I’m just thinking without a plan, it sets up my day to where I can’t fully be balanced and truly drains you to the point where sleep becomes an issue, you don’t know where to start with things because of everything in that head of yours and you really feel like nothing can fully get completed. You can’t fully commit to things you would like when you’re constantly in your own head.  Worrying really does take us away from living our best life, it takes us away from being able to be present and it can remove us from true growth because worrying can keep us stagnant. When you are so used to worrying about things, being able to do something different can be unheard of but it is possible.  When we worry it sometimes serves as a slight distraction from having to deal with reality, if we don’t have the right coping mechanisms, we can just continue to worry and worry to no end and this really just affects us mentally and physically.  Sometimes I know I can just worry to a default, some things don’t need my energy but I sometimes can’t help it and one of the things that can help is, like I’ve mentioned before, identify if this worry is within your control or not, try to focus on things within your control and what you can do to manage this worry, write down your worries so you just have some way to get them out of your head, have a set time to just give yourself a few minutes to worry about your worries and think about possible solutions, challenge what you’re worrying about, does it serve a purpose for you and lastly name it, name whats going on, yes, whats currently happening is worry, don’t let it just continue without truly acknowledging it and letting it know that it doesn’t have that control over you. Worrying is no joke and can truly take hold of you if you don’t let it know whose boss. Do you ever feel like the worries you have drain you from taking care of you?

Happy Monday and goal for this week is just working on believing in the process, believing that what I’m doing is taking me to where I would like to be, so positive thoughts, positive vibes and nothing can stop me. Hope you have a goal this week as well.

 

Thanks for reading,

Alvie

Speaking Before Listening

Welcome back..This topic today is something I struggle with at times maybe more so than I would like. I’ve been told of my selective listening skills at times, which is based on several things, I have a short attention span at time, sometimes my counseling techniques come into play because at some moments doing a session,  you have to weed through a persons full response to get to the root cause and so I sometimes I apply that in normal conversations, which isn’t good because at times I do miss important details on where the story is going. It’s very important to pay attention to what someone is telling you, because if you’re always ready to speak you can miss a thing or two. I’ve been in many “discussions” where I was ready to just speak my mind that I missed out on a chance to understand how someone truly felt in a situation and that can be hurtful to that person because they didn’t’ feel like they were heard. I’ve found the following helpful in being able to calm my thoughts down in moments where my emotions can get the best of me.

Reflecting is Key:If you aren’t able to reflect back to someone what they just said then this just maybe something to work on. There are two forms of this, Mirroring what someone has said or Paraphrasing. Sometimes taking a moment, telling the other person that you are processing everything said and try to repeat back in a sense what they mentioned, helps you focus on what’s being talked about, it gives you time to process things instead of feeling rushed and needing to respond and it helps make the other person feel good that you are paying attention. Theres nothing like expressing yourself to someone to find that they weren’t really listening. In these moments it’s also good to ask if you understood them correctly with you repeating things back (Mirroring). This is a great way to build on communication because you put more emphasis on listening and attending to the person while talking or outbursts take a back seat.  This can be an impulsive way to handle things and we want to avoid that, less acting on emotion and more on taking a brief moment to reflect on things before opening your mouth.

Take a Step Back: This at times can be a tough one, when you’re full of emotion and maybe want to scream, take that step back before responding to things, you must  give yourself 10 seconds before you say anything. Practice this in other areas of your life for it to be a useful tool to implement in these situations. This is another good time to just tell someone to give you a minute, your processing what has been said before you speak. I feel people can respect this because it really shows that you’re paying attention and making a conscious effort to be present in the conversation.

I think this is a great skill to nurture, just focusing on listening in each moment of the day, try to repeat things back, write things down to get more clarification but just make it a priority to listen before you speak, you can miss out on so much when you don’t.  You’ll be surprised to see all the goodness that comes out of nurturing this skill. You realize when you start to do this others start to mimic your skills so as you take a step back and reflect before speaking you find that your interpersonal communication has more meaning with both parties putting emphasis on listening.

Lastly, as you pay attention to getting more out of your conversations, you may also find that you might learn ways to listen to your body, listen to when things are going on with you, to make sure you’re in tune with your needs in certain moments. I think this gives me an idea for a future topic.

Like I have mentioned, I am not at all where I want to be and still a work in progress but I share a bit of what has worked for me, in hopes that it can light something in you to make the changes you need to.

Thanks for coming.

Alvie