To live carefree in this year, I’m learning to kick things up a notch and love and live in this life. So, I’ve talked a bit about certain things I’ve been working on for self, but I think this year, its being able to do what truly feels right for me. We are told certain things throughout our life and just so many things can influence what we read, eat, what we do, etc. I feel now, I want to influence myself to the point that I’m living for me and not how this world wants to me live.
For one, since my relationship ended last year, I think I’ve had this battle with myself on if a relationship is in the cards for me and if I even want that. Through some sole searching, I feel that I want to give love another chance. Just because several people in my past may have messed up how I view relationships. I think for me, I haven’t found someone that can truly make me look at relationships in a more positive place and I think it can happen, it just may take time and I’m here for it.
- So many times, we can allow that one person to affect how we approach future situations and I think it’s about reflecting on what you learned, what you can improve on and promising yourself time to get right, so you’re not just filling a void of loneliness and jumping into the next relationship quickly.
- If you’re in the same situation, let your past teach you things, but don’t allow it to damper your spirits about relationships. Cry your eyes out when you feel you need to and spend some time with you. It may not be fun at times but this is your time to love you, appreciate you, get your goals back in check and just be set in you so that this next relationship, you will handle it differently, you’ll appreciate it differently and it will be such a breath of fresh air when that next person treats you the way you should be treated.
Another thing is being honest with people by speaking my mind when I’m not too pleased about something. I’m very much a person that might hold things in, out of fear of hurting people’s feelings but I think I’m over that. There is a way to get your thoughts out in an assertive way to make sure things are being released. No more just accepting how things happen, it’s now about being vocal because your voice, like mine is important, so don’t be fearful of that.
- If you’re trying to learn some ways to be assertive, its first making sure you’re set with you, that you have some understanding of your core beliefs. These beliefs are pretty important since they factor into what you think about self, so if you think ‘you don’t matter’, this may be shown in how you approach situations with others. So, fix those beliefs about self, replace it with more positive statements, then focus on speaking on things, regardless of how big or small it may be, it’s learning that, that voice of yours matters. The more you do it, the more you become comfortable in hearing that great voice of yours.
Lastly, it’s about laughing, life doesn’t have to be so serious. At times I can get in my own head and instead of being able to be present in the moment to enjoy it, my thoughts can at times take over. So, no more being in dance class, beating myself up about missing a step, I’m going to start getting out of my head and just laugh and smile that I’m in this space. It’s ok to make mistakes, to laugh at yourself, to have fun, to enjoy what’s going on around you. What’s not ok is not being able to find that inner child every so often to be able to let loose.
- If you need some ways to let go, make mistakes intentionally, knowing that you don’t have to be perfect. Have fun with yourself, create play time for yourself. Get out of your comfort zone and get of your head. Start to enjoy moments with a mindset that, “each moment of my life, I will make it a fun experience, no matter what.” Shake it out, scream it out, dance it out, whatever it is you need to release that extra tension, do it so you can get to more fun things.