Changing My Thinking-Here’s what Happened


I wanted to touch a bit on how much of a difference it makes when we change our mindset on how we perceive things. The plan was to go into the week thinking about things a bit differently than I had been to get a different outcome. Some thoughts really don’t deserve all the energy we give it. There is so much power on how our perspective on things are and once we master this we realize the control we can have over our thoughts and our behaviors. I’ve learned a few things in changing my perspective this week and really wanted to share because of how good I’ve felt.

So a few things I’ve done recently with some reasons why.

  • Started going to bed at a set time: This was something that I did consistently when I first moved to Maryland and I guess as I got busier with things, this routine went away. I’ve made it a point to go to bed around the 930 pm mark and it works for me. I know sleep is important for me and I know getting a full nights rest helps me function better the next day. This has helped me wake up naturally around the same time in the mornings without the use of an alarm, which has been good.
  • Implemented a morning stretch routine: I read an article about what we should do when we first wake up and one of the suggestions was stretching.  It can help with waking your body up and getting some circulation going. I get loosened up and it helps me relax as well. Its become my own time to just be present, be still and focus on nothing else but me.  Benefits to stretching can be found here.  I do a 10 minute yoga routine that you can find here along with a few more here and here.
  • Use of a grounding exercise: These are exercises that help you stay in the moment. One of the ones I have used lately, is putting my legs up against the wall. While lying on the floor on my back, I get as close to the wall as possible, then I put my feet up straight against the wall, hope that makes sense. This is a way to slow your heart rate down and just really be still. You can be in this position for 5 minutes. After this, I usually will still keep my feet up and will think about how I want the day to go and then let a few quotes marinate in my head, before I get up. This moment for me is just being still before I start the day with how chaotic it can get, this is my little moment before I speak to anyone or just start getting ready for my day.
  • Listening to inspirational music: I’ve adding this back into my morning routine as I take my shower and get ready.  A nice tune with a positive message to match, has always been something that can make me feel good in the moment.
  • Take some steps back: To not impulsively respond to things, this works for me.  If someone has done something, normally I want to react and its usually not the best response. I’ve started to stop myself in the moment and just shift my focus towards something else. I return to what I need to return to once, I feel I’ve calmed down and thought about an appropriate way to respond and then go from there.  It’s been a learning process in stopping myself from reacting with what I want to do but learning to wait, has really helped with me making sure I’m not allowing things that don’t deserve that energy to get it, if that makes sense.
  • The art of minding my own business: If something doesn’t pertain to me, doesn’t affect me in some way, I try not to focus on it. I know how invested I can be in situations that may not have anything to do with me and I feed off of that energy. Welp,not anymore, I can’t continue to do that and still be able to manage all the things going on with me.
  • Stopped looking at work emails: I get anxiety about seeing a bunch of unread emails but I’ll be fine. The say the best way to manage your anxiety is continuous exposure so I need to understand that things can wait. I  wanted to make sure I was on top of things and looking back, most of the messages, could have waited until I got to work the next day. It was a bit weird at first but after work, I’m done with that for the day. My attention needs to shift on to getting home, relaxing, reading, etc. Basically it needs to be on other things, we spend a good amount of time at work, so we need moments to de-stress because we have to do it all over again the next day. Right?
  • Allow myself to be Lazy: When I get home from work, I sit on my bed. I give myself time to lay down, think about nothing but just this moment of not having any responsibility. It may last a bit longer than expected but I need it and I allow myself to have these moments.

So far this has been a good plan for me and hoping you see something that could be helpful for you.

Thanks for reading


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