I’ve been trying to finish this post since the middle of the week because it was a thought that sprang up on my morning commute, I started a little blurb about this on my instagram and wanted to elaborate more on this because I’ve been observing it through interactions I have with others and sometimes I get reminded that I don’t implement this as much as I should. For example, Jade will always say such encouraging things to me, if I’m doing something new with my hair, continuing to stay focused on my blog, he always finds a way to really lift me up and you want to know what I do in those moments, not all the time but at times, I may laugh it off thinking he’s joking or may not really believe it in myself yet so even though I may appreciate it, I may think more about what was said, and that truly needs to stop. Really all this is about how we take in compliments that are given to us throughout our day, doesn’t matter how big or small, if we believe it in ourselves or not but being in the moment to accept this positive statement someone had the courage to express and direct towards us. One of the things that I have noticed is how we can disregard the compliment, kind of dismiss what has been said by adding additional statements to that compliment, like “no, I don’t deserve that” or “it was nothing” or “thank-you, but…” maybe there’s a hand motion of in a sense pushing away what has been said, hope that makes sense. As I have been thinking about this, I think at times since we may not see this particular great compliment in us currently, we can do everything in that moment to really disregard and devalue our greatness, could be just my opinion but that’s what I feel I see at times. Also, there’s a sense of dissecting what someone has said after the fact, second-guessing that moment and I just want to say, just relish in that moment, that compliment was meant for you and no one else. So, really the whole purpose of this post is just the art of saying “Thank-you” and nothing else and to do that well, this can help:
- Believe in you already: Continue to build up who you are on a consistent basis, good or bad days come, but you are the common denominator in all of this so making an effort to truly have some sort of positivity in you at all times builds up your confidence, changes your thoughts and just changes your perspective on how you take in things that occur in your life.
- Be present: No need to be in any other moment but this current one. Accept that what is happening is happening for a reason, don’t take yourself out of it just because you may not fully accept what is being said, the more we face certain fears we may have, the more we can easily be in that moment and accept everything that is happening to us.
- Practice it: Say “thank-you” to yourself in moments where you did something, practice in the mirror, consistently doing this will help you really appreciate the moment to know that you actually saying it, means you really mean it.
- Compliment others: So that you recognize how much effort it is in being able to express these things and maybe you’ll be able to see that what someone is really saying truly exemplifies you.
- Take 3 seconds: Before responding just stop, count in your head for 3 seconds then say “Thank-you,” this can help stop any of those not so great things you may want to think about and just helps you be mindful and to stay in the now and accept this great compliment.
Hope you are having a great start to your weekend and I’m out fixing to head to my dance class that I’m oh so excited about.
Alvie